dear women,
what do Kanye West, Michael Douglas, Charlie Sheen, Tiger Woods, Lindsay Lohan, Megan Fox, James Blunt, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Bushido have in common?
Are you (or were) a sex addict? – No.
You claimed it. – Yes.
Not everyone who says they’re a sex addict actually is.
Which doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
The excuse
Apparently celebs are only human. Which is why celebrities who are in a relationship sometimes have sex outside of that relationship. They cheat. They are having an affair. Whatever you call it, they do. And because they’re obviously only human, they try to talk their way out of it. In contrast to some other people, however, it is not always so easy for a celebrity person to talk their way out, because they might be recorded in picture and sound as they stuck their tongue down someone’s throat, put their hand on their ass or the Have genitals slide into each other. Silly. What are you doing there?
You still don’t admit that you just screwed up a lot of shit. Then you were sick. Yes, you know how it is with the stars of this world, they take drugs and drink their heads off, all addicts before the Lord, and if we know one thing, it’s that an addicted celebrity always has a good reason for this addiction, namely that he had a hard time as a kid, that he had a hard time as a star, that he couldn’t handle fame, he couldn’t handle depression, that everyone else did too. And then he goes into rehab where he lies by the pool next to the other addicted fallen stars and everything is fine. And he doesn’t have to take responsibility. Well, that can be transferred very well to sex. And he doesn’t have to take responsibility. Because that’s what it’s about.
So the sex addiction is a perfectly welcome excuse for fucking around.
And sex addiction is also an addiction that is associated with a lot of prestige: it shows how potent I am, how masculine I am when I am a man, how free and unbound and emancipated when I am a woman. Sex addiction, yes, yes, that’s something you can definitely brag about. They do it again and again, the stars. And the alleged. I’m thinking of Nico Schwartz.
The Addiction
But sex addiction is actually an addiction. And with it an illness. And maybe one or the other of the people listed really did suffer from sex addiction. But the word “suffered” is crucial.
We speak of an addiction when it can no longer be controlled. This is reflected, for example, in the fact that other areas of life are neglected. When work isn’t done properly anymore, when family gets cut short, so when it’s all about what you’re addicted to.
In many cases, this has financial consequences, since most addictions are expensive. But that doesn’t matter to a certain extent. Because you need that. Because if you don’t have that, then you feel bad, shit, sick. With many of the so-called substance-related addictions, i.e. the classic drugs, there is a massive physical withdrawal with fever and chills and whatnot. In the case of behavioural addictions, when one is addicted to a certain behaviour, the reaction to withdrawal is often just as bad. Nervousness, trembling, aggression, etc. You can’t do without it anymore. And it has to be more and more.
The gambling addict has to play. It’s not about having fun, it’s not about winning, he’s known for a long time that he can only lose. Even if he doesn’t admit it to himself. Can’t admit.
Even the sex addict is no longer concerned with lust and its satisfaction. This isn’t fun anymore. When he’s having sex, he thinks about how he’s going to have sex next. When he jerks off in between, he jerks his sore penis. When he watches porn, it goes on for hours and hours and hours. When she needs cock, she doesn’t care who’s on it. And if this person is healthy. Addiction is harming yourself and/or others. And still does it.
And those who feel all this because they are actually addicted to sex are less likely to run around and brag about it.
The therapy
But sex addiction, like any other addiction, is treatable. This usually doesn’t happen somewhere at a pool. That requires an in-depth examination of oneself. It’s not enough to say: I won’t do it anymore. If it were that easy, it wouldn’t be an addiction.
And then you might realize that it’s not really about sex. Or gambling, or heroin, or whatever.
It’s about something else.
Just admitting that to yourself can hurt.
And escaping addiction is always a supposedly easy solution.
